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Yesterday lunch time I was sat round the table eating lunch with Doug, Owen, and my sister's two kids Sky, (4 1/2) and Summer (2 1/2). I was feeding Cullyn at the same time.

Sky: Is Cullyn eating your body?

Me: (Rather startled). Um No! He's drinking my milk.

Sky: Is he eating your skin off?

Me: (Catching Doug's eye who is looking slightly green at the visual) No no. My breasts make milk for him as he doesn't eat normal food. (I then make a mental note to speak to my sister about her daughter's education...)

Even better than the time when Sky asked me how Cullyn had come out of my tummy, and me not having a clue how my sister would want it handled, and not wanting to overstep any boundaries, pointed vaguely in the direction of my crotch and said he came out down there. To which she told me not to be silly as legs don't have holes in them. I then told her to go and ask her Mummy.

As I have boys I feel that it should be Doug responsibility to undergo the embarrassing facts of life thing. (And yes I know it's something that we should open and honest etc. about, but realistically, talking about sex with your children, is no more comfortable than talking about sex with your parents.)

*Flashing back to being sixteen, going out with my second boyfriend who I hadn't even thought about sleeping with yet, and being told by my mother that I should - "Use two forms of contraception as we are an incredibly fertile family" *, and that I should borrow my grandmothers copy of The Joy of Sex! I wanted to throw myself out of the window at that moment from sheer shame, (we were in a moving car at the time). My mother is exception to the whole talking about sex to your kids/parents rule. I'm repressing the times when she's told me about her and my dad's sex life...

*Ironically it took me two years to get pregnant, and we had an appointment at the fertility clinic when I found out I was pregnant with Owen.

Incidently my icon is my niece Sky.
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I don't know if any of my UK based friends have kids, but I thought I'd make you aware anyway…

A couple of days ago it was splashed all over the papers and TV that the Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths (FSID) have changed their advice on co-sleeping, as it increased the risk of cot-death with babies under 8 weeks.

BBC News Report

Most people I know on NCT lists and the like were extremely sceptical.

And then today, this came out -

UNICEF UK Baby Friendly Initiative.

When other factors are controlled for, bed-sharing between non-smoking mothers and their babies becomes non-significant (Odds Ratio = 1.56 [95% CI:0.91 to 2.68]) - this can be seen in Table 2 of the Lancet paper). It is not clear why the unadjusted result has been highlighted in the media. Well, the media has never been known to sensationalize as story, with no regard for the damage they do, have they? (MMR anybody?)

The UNICEF UK Baby Friendly Initiative has asked the Foundation for the Study of Infant Deaths to reverse its policy change pending a full discussion of the issues at the National Patient Safety Agency on 9 February

It is also interesting to note that the study did not record infant feeding method at the time of death. We do not therefore know whether the babies who died while bed sharing with non-smoking parents were breast- or bottle-fed, or whether breast feeding may have been protective.

Something to note here - breast feeding is widely known to reduce the risk of cot death, (Something the FSID don't make as big a song and dance about as you might imagine they would). Co-sleeping, especially in the first few weeks, is known to increase the chances of a mother continuing to breastfeed.

Oh look, FSID's main corporate sponsor is Cow & Gate. Oh, and they make baby formula. Of course they have no influence over FSID's attitude towards breastfeeding, and would never dream of trying to influence them in the future.

Baby Slings

Sep. 9th, 2003 04:17 pm
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Has anyone had experience of using baby slings as opposed to baby carriers? We used a Mothercare baby carrier for Little Man, and it was worse than useless.

I like the idea off being able to breastfeed with a sling, but there's so many different ones out there it's a little confusing.

So any advice on what to go for?
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Any NCT member who believes that women should be able to use an independent midwife at the birth of their baby will be concerned to hear that the Nursing and Midwifery Council (NMC) is proposing a requirement that all nurses and midwives hold professional indemnity insurance (PII). This would mean that independent midwives would be forced to cease practising as such insurance is no longer available to them in the UK.

The Independent Midwives Association (IMA) is seeking advice on the legality of this change. Many believe that it will lead to women who have rejected the NHS having unassisted births, with possible fatalities resulting. more

Anyone concerned is urged to make their voices known now by contacting their MP and adding their views to the Nursing and Midwifery Council online message board
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I swear I will scream if one more person says this to me. I mean it - I will scream and I can scream very, very loud.

Person, after person says this to me - and surprise surprise, most of those are mothers of girls. The rate has increased tenfold (I do like that word, it has a nice feel to it) in the last week.

You see last week I took my son to the health visitor, as at 18 months he's not saying any words yet. Hearing seems fine, majorly sociable, comprehends things we've said and can babble for England. But he just doesn't have any words yet. Now I know we've got a little time before we should really start worrying, but as there's a really, really strong history of dyslexia (amongst other things) on both sides of the family, (both I and my husband are dyslexic), so it's something I want to catch early. (Especially as there's a six to nine month waiting list for a speech therapist!) So off we. went to the health visitor and he's now being referred to the speech therapist.

But nearly every person I told about this has, without fail, said, "oh but boys are more lazy than girls aren't they." [I promise you, I will scream the next time someone says this to me.

Now I would just like people to ponder a few things

1) We're talking about babies and toddlers here. They start out with few thoughts - food, sleep, warmth, comfort/love. They then progress onto things like - sweet food, shiny button, Mummy's attention, cat, shiny toy that that other child has got, big puddle. But still they're not thinking complex thoughts yet. They're still pretty simple creatures.

2) To be lazy you have to think about the effort involved. You have to think, (even if it's subcounciously) 'I can't be bothered to turn over the telly, because the remote's to far away.'

3) Babies and toddlers learn to do things because it is instinct to do so. (BTW, who else saw Professor Winston's Human Instinct on BBC tonight? Excellent program) They learn to walk, talk and sit up, because it is part of our human instinct.

4) Babies and toddlers don't decide to put off learning to do something because there's too much effort involved. They might have no desire curently to walk across the room, they might have been momentarily been put of by a failure, (such as falling down and hurting themselves), or their brains might still be doing the necessary re-wiring to enable them to learn to new skill.

5) Because they can't learn to do somethings until they have the necessary leg muscles, co-ordination, brain development.

6) And enviromental factors way in too - how much a child gets talked, played with etc.

7) And ignoring everything above it's just a big generalisation - which just pees me off anyway

So if boys learn to crawl, walk, talk later than girls, (which I dispute anyway) it's not laziness, and anyone who thinks so is a lazy thinker.
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Little man had some kind of stomach bug today - it's amazing how quickly you build up tolerance for sick and poo when you become a parent. When I was little, I was always amazed by the way Mum could clear up vomit without seeming to be bothered by it. I didn't realize it's because you have no choice but to deal with it. Great fun!

Got pissed last night for the first time in ages. Scotch is wonderful for coughs if you're allergic to cough medicines, (it is the original medicinal) problems only arising when you're a complete lightweight, as I am. Well it wouldn't have been too bad if the first (very) large double hadn't made me forget why I'm careful about how much I drink, and just reminded me about how much I like scotch. A couple more and I was reeling all over the place. No one would have been the wiser though, if I hadn't then woken my husband just to tell him just how pissed I was. ;-)


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